A wife’s reflection of 10 little things that inspire grace within the sacrament of marriage after 10 years of marriag

  1. Pray, fast, and sacrifice for one another intentionally. When two people are looking in the same direction—that is towards Heaven—powerful things happen. ⁣⁣⁣
  2. Never get so comfortable as to lose your manners. A simple please and thank you with a smile brings joy and peace to the home.⁣⁣⁣⁣
  3. Honor your husband; refrain from speaking poorly of him.⁣⁣⁣
  4. Avoid nagging or trying to take control. He is there to lead. As women we encourage his leadership and chivalry through a holy submission made freely with joy. Expect great things from him and encourage him in his masculinity and his work. ⁣⁣⁣⁣
  5. Make intimacy a priority and prepare with reverence for one another. It is holy. It is beautiful. It is good. It is life giving. ⁣⁣⁣⁣
  6. Make an effort each day to find a little time to speak friend to friend. At times more deeply, sharing hopes and dreams, and other times quite simply asking how he is feeling or how his day was. Then listen. Deep friendship is built on a shared life and vulnerability. ⁣
  7. Read out loud or listen to a talk together. Growing together intellectually brings about fruitful conversation that raises the mind to higher things and leads to interesting conversation. ⁣⁣⁣
  8. Laugh together and laugh often. I love dancing around the living room in the evening, drinking wine, and picking an activity to do together. Find your favorite way to “play” and make a date of it. ⁣⁣⁣⁣
  9. Leave no stone unturned. Never let something fester or anger take root. It is worth discussing and working through what is uncomfortable and hard because love is worth fighting for. When things are challenging we like to remind each other: “We are on the same team.”⁣⁣⁣⁣
  10. And finally, seek to serve one another. I have started to recognize this as the “prayer of marriage”. When we serve the other and make the other happy with little sacrifices and acts of service, we are fueling and proving love with works. We often think about serving our children well but what about the value of serving our husbands too?